Here is a fighter’s kryptonite (one amongst many) – jealousy.

Jealousy is innately built into us as humans. We want more than the next person. We want to be better than the next person. For the most part, we can’t stand to see others succeed unless we are moving along right with them.

I’m speaking to myself as much as I am to anyone else – I’ve worked on “jealousy” all my life and am finally arriving at a point where I am firm with my own goals, strengths and plan. What others do does not impact me near as much as it used and I’ve quit trying to “ride the wave.”

Many of us make the mistake of just doing what others do in the interest of getting the same results as them. I am willing to bet that this strategy works out for about 1 in 1,000,000 (if that many even).

Bottom line is that you’re YOU and that’s it. You want to succeed? Great! Do it on your own terms, not someone else’s.

Be Envious, Not Jealous

I have this cousin who is incredibly well off, nice big house, expensive cars, great family (the list goes on…). Since I was a little kid I’ve looked up to him and always been amazed at all the things he had and how cool he was.

I’ve always wanted what he has and wanted to live his life. By the way, he works his tail off and has earned every ounce of it – that’s what impresses me the most.

So, no, I didn’t want it handed down to me – I wanted to do it the way he did.

Growing up, I saw that he was in Medical school and that he was going to make tons of money in the future – so what did I do? I started studying to be a doctor…

1 year into my studies I hated it, hated my life and everything around myself.

I quickly learned that I had to do these things MY way, not his. I left medicine and started studying business and 3 years later, I can say it was the best decision I ever made (for me).

I was never jealous, just motivated…

You see, during that entire time, I was never once jealous of my cousin. Rather I used his success to MOTIVATE me. I let it be proof to me that “if he could do it, so could I.”

I chose a completely different path and a few years later I’m almost there! Given, he’s got a few years head start on me

Be ENVIOUS of people and look up to their success and let it motivate you to do the same. But, don’t be jealous, jealousy will eat you alive and only hold you back.

But a Fighter is ALWAYS Competitive…

I made the story above sound all rosey, don’t get me wrong – I’m still a fighter and a fighter is ALWAYS competitive. But it’s always respectful competition. I only “compete” with those who are stronger than I.

It helps me grow, it helps me excel and it gives me clear goals to achieve.

So in review – don’t be jealous, be envious. Use the success of others to propel and motivate you into action. Commit yourself to achieving even more success, but do it YOUR own way. Never shortcut anyone, remember, this is a big world and we can all be successful.

But a little competitive spirit never hurt anyone

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