How To Overcome Obstacles – Rule #1
The Fighter Mentality is not only something that comes to life AFTER something goes wrong, but more something that is awake 24/7 and always on the look-out.
Whenever a fighter is faced with an obstacle or challenge or smells one coming, he/she immediately kicks into mode and starts preparing for the fight. I’ve spent the last 5 years evaluating what I do and I’ve found a consistent patter.
How To Overcome Obstacles – FIRST, Prepare For The Worst…
I know that sounds like old and re-hashed advice, but hear me out.
I’ve learned that in order for me to face a problem head-on with a clear head, I have to ACCEPT (100%) the WORST possible outcome that could happen.
What do I mean by this?
Here’s a personal and fairly extreme example.
When I was in the ICU a couple of years ago, many nurses told me that I was probably the happiest patient they had ever seen with the best attitude (just to note, I was internally bleeding profusely, could not even stand up without risking heart overload and had already gone into shock from blood loss once).
So, yes, pretty serious situation.
This was a point in which the “Fighter” kicked in. I evaluated the situation and determined the WORST case – it was that I may die, I’m not trying to be dramatic – just proving a point.
Save All Energy For Positive Thoughts...
If I was going to “fight” this situation and come out on top, I had to put 100% of my energy on positive things and focus on getting better, I could not spare even ONE second “fearing” the worst. So, I simply accepted it.
I accepted the fact that I had lived a good life and that if I die, it would be amongst my loved ones and that if I was going to go, I would make it a point to go with a smile on my face.
It took me a lot of convincing myself, but I did accept it. At the SAME time, I determined that “if they’re gonna take me, Ima go down swinging!”
So, I was very motivated to fight and WIN. I focused 100% of my energy on motivating myself and taking every situation one step at a time.
In the end, I was able to completely focus on getting better and I did. I had accepted the worst possible situation and so I no longer feared it (and was prepared for it).
The next time you have an obstacle ahead of you – face your fears. Pretend as if the worst has already happened. Plan your way OUT of that situation, accept it and see how much easier it is to stand and fight.
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May 14th, 2008 at 9:54 am
good one…..we will all encounter problems and difficulties no matter who we are….no matte how much we have or don’t have….so make a life plan. Try to get on your life plan and be guided….but still problems come along…..and we need to have a plan for solutions in advance of the problems arrival.
So I say….and have learned the hard way…that you either control your emotions or your emotions control you. Think about it….I have really created my worst problems…all by myself. Oh I could blame others, but it was my decisions on how to act and react that created the problem and degree of the problems.
So you have to get to really understand this…then plan your method of solving problems.
Rule #1 for me…..Think for a moment….before speaking. You are in charge of yourself…..your thoughts creates your response. Your past experiences tend to create those immediate negative responses as you may have had pain or were hurt somehow.
So if you don’t use your brain and think and have a plan….bad responses tend to take over.
One other thing to consider.
I learned….DON’T BE OFFENSIVE……DON’T BE OFFENDED.
Ok…try that out today.
It takes a plan and resolve not to be offended. It also is the same about being offensive.
So if you have a plan and really want PEACE in your life….get serious and do this… Don’t have a miscellaneous life.
What is a miscellaneous life. It is going through each day with out a solid plan…miscellaneous. Anyone can run a personal miscellaneous life. Just look around…..most people are this way. The jails are full of people with miscellaneous lifes.
Why do I say this. People in jail have decided to take a miscellandous approach to lifes thinking. Forinstance….they decided to hold up a gas station rather than work….or rape or kill or whatever.
They had choices to make and started off ok. But they were not shown to make a plan and be specific in goals.
If you were to decide to go to school…..learn…pass the tests and have a real purposeful goal then things would lead you there.
Some people decided to take piano lessons and give up…..some decide to become excellent and go on to making a living doing something they enjoy.
So remember you have to have a plan.
So today…go try to be non offensive……and don’t become offended.
It will quickly become evident you have to do the main thing of importance.
That is……You have to look at a situation and say to ourselves…..how should I respond properly…..not to be offensive if they are nasty.
Work on not responding automatically and see how much better you feel and become.
I see people daily who are miserable…..feeling defeated when in reality all they must do is change their mind set and have it their way.
People say…nothing bothers you…it all comes to you so easily.
My attorney once said…you are the perverible duck…which I didn’t know what that meant at the time….so I said….what does that mean…he said…oh …..it’s all like water off a ducks back for you…how do you do that.
I said….I am not offended…..I expect some problems of different sizes and will deal with them in a non offensive manner.
And don’t you know….I did get mad and fight back just after that…but I was out of my plan….I was personally imbarrassed to as I know it violated my personal rules and plans.
You see if you have a good wholesome plan, then you can have a pleasant live and Peace. I can’t fix anyones problems but my own, except by lending a helping hand when needed…but people do have to think out and have a little life plan.
This includes clutter. Don’t be a pack rat. Eliminate everyhting you can….If you don’t use it much….get rid of it.
Don’t buy boats and cars and everything you see. You have extra burdens for each item you accumulate. Give it away and feel the relief and more Peace. Others will continue to pack every kind of junk in their home, office and then go rent storage space for junk rarely used.
I have a friend that moved to Florida and put everything in the storage unit and then had to drive all the way back…pay the rent and took most of it to the dump, yard sale and Salvation Army.
Poor plans.
So go practice being nice, thinking and restraint with a specific plan towards a good goal.
And forgiveness is a must…total forgiveness of every event past, present and future to have real peace and love in your life.
Forinstance, if you got divorced…..forgive and forget or it will live in your mind for years and your future decisions will be negative and you will not have a worthwhile plan.
And to read THE SECRET….it tells you so much good stuff if you try hard to do what you need to do.
Get in shape and stop smoking…eat right and avoid the miscellanoeous life.
To be sure….you can see all the miscellaneous lives today….just go to the mall and watch the people. Miscellaneous is written all over them….big butt…..cigarrettes hanging from their mouth…..cusing at the kids…..littering…..orange hair….super obvious stuff.
Check out the people with those little rings in their nose and tongue and a hundred pounds overweight with a strange hair do and their nails all painted pretty…they are hoping to find a way to be accepted even if it is awefull…..and all they need to do is get a solid plan and good direction with a real plan for the good life.
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