“Thank you so much, you do such a great job, I wish I could do it this well…”

Sound a bit too mushy for you? Well, either way, try it. It can make a major impact on someone.

Yesterday night, around 9 PM my phone rang, it was my sister. I picked up and she said that my brother-in-law wanted to talk to me.

Some Back-story for you:

My sister is applying to medical residency programs and wanted me to edit her personal statements. I was cursed (I mean blessed ) with being a good writer. Funny thing because “writing” was the only thing I got a B in in high school (screwed up my 4.0 GPA).

Thanks to learning how to copywrite from Justin Ford, I do write very well now.

Anyways, I digress in self flattery…

She has two essays, one of them I had re-done and sent to her the night before. I was extremely tired when I edited it, it was NOT my best work, but still felt it was much better than the original draft.

My brother-in-law had called JUST to thank me. First of all, mind you, this favor was for my SISTER, not him. However, he said he was so incredibly impressed with my ability to write that he just had to call and say thanks (I’ve written things for them in the past as well, so he’s seen me at work in the past).

His exact words:

“Man…thank you so much…I just don’t get how you do these so well, it was amazing. Keep this up and you’re going to take over the world!”

(Obviously he got a bit exaggerated, I have no plans to try to take over the world).

The entire conversation lasted less than 2 minutes and I was glowing from ear to ear!

My sister had already thanked me. They weren’t telling me something I didn’t already know. Yet, him taking that extra step to make a phone call out of his way SPECIFICALLY to appreciate and acknowledge me went a long way for me.

Next time either of them needs a favor, I’ll be 10 times happier to do it for them versus someone else.

Lesson to take away - Take a minute every day or at least once a week and appreciate someone near you. Your wife, kids, co-worker, boss, kid’s teacher, employee, the local cross-guard - anyone, just do it.

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What you learn today: Do you get uncomfortable with silence? Feel the need to talk to replace it? Do you get antsy when you don’t hear an answer? Here’s an exercise…

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Have you ever noticed how intimidating silence can be? Most of us innately feel the need to talk and fill in silence, what we don’t realize is that we’re showing too many of our cards when we talk too much.

The less you share many times, the more cards you have on your side…

This may sound vindictive, but it’s the truth. A big part of being a successful fighter is winning debates, negotiations and winning over people. Many times, the key here is to keep an upper-hand, know someone else’s “touch points” without revealing yours.

I’ve noticed that when I talk too much or am too aggressive, I end up being on the “needy” side of things and lose control over the “fight.”

Here’s an exercise I’ve been working on and I welcome you to join as well…(I encourage you to join):

PRACTICE SILENCE & PATIENCE

Let’s use an example…say you’ve just made an offer on a car and it’s been 10 hours and the sales guy has not called you back - FINE, DON’T CALL HIM!

The minute you all him, the message you’ve sent is that you’re desperate and have nothing better to sit around and think about. He gets the upper hand and your dealing power decreases.

OR, the next time you’re trying to get something your way - mention it and then DON’T defend it. Keep quiet, let the other person talk and talk, listen to them and gather your argument points.

When you DO talk, make it razor sharp and to the point.

Silence is golden (as they’ve said) - especially when you’re negotiating…

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What you learn today: Taking 20 minutes a day to perform “audio mind exercises” can really help you reduce stress and anxiety.

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As you know about 2 weeks ago I talked about my experiences with Mind Aerobics. I started using this program back in 2004 and had immediately seen a change in my life.

Unfortunately, I have always started and then stopped again out of laziness (it needs at least 20 minutes a night for the best effect).

Recently, I decided to pick it up again and have been pretty consistent the last month (always doing it at least 5 times a week). I am once again completely amazed at the results so I thought I would share them.

What I Was Like 6 Weeks Ago…

I had gotten incredibly busy with many things going on professionally and personally. It would be an understatement to say that I was STRESSED out. I stopped thinking straight, I lost my creativity and I was focusing on “worrying” and sometimes even “panicking.”

I ended up seeing the CD set in my bookshelf and it seemed like the perfect answer (given how many times it has helped in the past).

Here Is What Has Happened…

The biggest difference is that I am about 10 times more calm right now. Yes, I still “freak out” occasionally, but nothing like 6 weeks ago. I am actually so calm that I get a bit worried why…

I am now able to look at problems with a much more clear mind, this not only helps me stay calm but it helps me come up with creative solutions to obstacles.

Check Out Mind Aerobics…

If you have not yet, this is really an investment I believe very strongly in. I have made myself a promise to not go more than 2 days a week without listening to it.

I figure, just like regular work outs, I should give my brain at least 2 days a week off to rest.

If you cannot afford Mind Aerobics…

No problem, it happens - but I do recommend that you start saving up as soon as possible.

In the mean time, the best short term solution is to grab your ipod or some other sound system, plug in some headphones and listen to ANY soothing music (jazz/classical/etc…)

If nothing else, this will relax you and give you some time to clear your mind.

HOWEVER, THIS IS NOT what Mind Aerobics does, remember, MA is scientifically developed to actually target different areas of your brain, different wave lengths in a very specific order.

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What You’re About To Learn: If you want to lead, you better make fast decisions and then stick to them. Don’t “waffle” and change your mind...

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It was such a powerful and fast call that I was in AWE after I put the phone down. I came stumbling out of my office and looked at the team and said “wow, no wonder this guy is so successful…”

I had a conference call today with a new acquaintance, but a very powerful name in our industry. I had set aside at least 30 minutes to do the call, going off of the convention I’m used to. However, within the first 10 seconds of the call, I knew I was talking to someone completely different and that this call was going to be unique.

A) No small talk - RIGHT down to business.
B) Talked in a VERY fast pace - It felt like I was trying to catch up to someone who is walking very fast.
C) Point 1, Point 2, Point 3…boom boom boom - That’s how the call went. No jokes, no small talk - get to the point and move on.
D) Yes/No decisions right there…

Just so you understand me, I am not insinuating that you should make “rushed” decisions, this person obviously knew exactly what decision they were making. Just because he made it fast did not mean he made a hasty decision.

What I really respected was that he didn’t “waffle” or “buy time” - he respected both his and my time to be straight and up-front.

There were 3 topics we discussed, two he was extremely interested in and immediately told me what the next steps were. One of them he was not and just as quickly said “no, I won’t be interested in that at this time.”

Others that I present this opportunity usually say “Ooo…sure, pass me the information and let me look at it, etc..etc…” - Not this gentleman, he knew right from the start. Even though he turned me down on the third point, I truly respected him for it and was impressed.

Learn To Think On Your Feet - Don’t Be Afraid To Say No

If you want to be successful, you have to learn to make fast decisions and then stick to them. The biggest curse a fighter can have is the “waffling mentality” where you go back and forth on one decision.

“I” still do this but am getting better about it day by day. Luckily I have many people around me that are firm decision makers, so when I start to waffle, they know how to get me back on track.

After my call today, I’m even more motivated to focus on making fast decisions.

Usually we’ll “waffle” or “buy time” when we know we’ll eventually reject something or say “no.” By nature, most of us don’t want to disappoint, so saying no is hard. That’s why we find ways to get around it. What we really end up doing is just wasting everyone’s time.

Instead of thinking of a “no” as rejecting someone, why not think of it “respecting their time enough not to pull their leg.”

Practice Making Hard Deadlines On Decisions And Sticking To Them

Here is an exercise to help you improve your decision making skills. For just one day, every decision you need to make from choosing your clothes to making decisions at work - assign a deadline to each decision.

I don’t mean you necessarily have to make important work decisions THAT day - but assign a deadline.

Commit to yourself that by THIS time on THIS day, you will make a final decision on something no matter what. AND, most importantly, you will NOT change your mind (of course there is always room for urgent exceptions, but only strict emergencies).

Not only do you need to learn to make fast decisions, but if you want to be a leader and be looked upon as a success you need to backup your decisions, stick to them and show confidence in them.

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What you learn today: The one “CD set” that I think has changed my life over and over (at least 8 times that I can count)…

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Alright before you think I’m one of those “self help weirdos” - hear me out. I also never bought into the whole “self-manifesting” or the “hypnosis” type exercises - thought they were blatant scams.

Then, in January 2004, not sure what encouraged me try Mind Aerobics, perhaps it was pure desperation and exhaustion of failure?

I bought the main CD set (the first of their many levels - Mind Aerobics 1) for just $79.95. The first day it came in I decided to pop it in to my CD player right before bed (you have to use headphones with this)…

Can You Commit Just 20 Minutes A Night Before Bed?

For a better mind, more prominent self-manifesting, clearer thoughts, more creativity and not to mention much better sleep…can you commit just 20 minutes every night?

The main workout is about 20 minutes short and I recommend using it before going to bed.

Unfortunately, in my experience, I have not always been very disciplined about using it. Even when I initially started it, even though I had amazing results, I quit after just 2 weeks (laziness). Then, when things got bad again, I re-started it and again, things got much better within a few days and AGAIN I’d quit in a couple of weeks…

I’ve played this game for 4 years now and I’m finally making a strong commitment - I will NOT quit this time.

So What Happened In January of 2004?

Basically I had spent a year online trying to make some money and everything was failing, one business failed miserably after spending 6 months on it! I was down and didn’t know what to do.

I *think* a friend referred me to Mind Aerobics to help me clear my mind.

I started the sessions right in the MIDDLE of getting ready to launch a new site. Long story short, a week after starting Mind Aerobics, I had made more money in ONE night while sleeping ($300) than I had made in the past YEAR put together.

Yes, I give 100% of the credit to Mind Aerobics, I feel very strongly about that.

After that in the following 60 days I ended up making over $10,000! But, unfortunately, since at that time I felt that all the success was because of “me” and not some “stupid cd” I quit doing the program…

2 months into it business was slowing down again and I decided to give Mind Aerobics another try.

No joke, within 3 days I closed a Joint Venture with a big person in the industry and went on that year to make over $100,000+ thanks to that relationship. However, until recently, I can’t say I learned my lesson - I kept quitting and starting and quitting again.

By now, I’ve started and quit Mind Aerobics easily 8 times (purely out of ego initially and also laziness). I can tell you that EACH time I start it, I see an immediate impact and I always know it’s really because of Mind Aerobics.

Why I Recently Started It Again?

I had not used it for another year because “I’m so busy” but recently my head was in a major fog. I was having a hard time figuring out what to do next. I randomly came across Mind Aerobics on my shelf and decided it was time to re-start.

I listened to it before going to sleep, the very next morning I woke up with a “GENIUS” idea of what to do next.

Coincidence? I think not…

I’m not letting it go now - literally so many GREAT things have happened in the last 2 weeks, I’m NOT STOPPING THIS TIME.

Mind Aerobics is the most automated way to “attract good luck” that I’ve ever seen…

It Hypnotizes You!

The coolest part about using Mind Aerobics is that it works just how they say it will and it actually hypnotizes you (safely).

First - You start by relaxing your body and clearing your mind. It’s important that you LET your mind wander wherever it goes, DON’T give it any direction, just act like you’re taking a seat and watching the show.

Second - You may get some weird sensations - it’s perfectly normal, they actually feel good.

Third - Many (like me) will end up dozing off - this is the hypnosis part. The creator of the program told me that some don’t doz off, but you’re STILL hypnotized.

Unlike other hypnosis programs, this one does not require ANY concentration - the music in the CD does it automatically.

Fourth - You wake up right before the end. I never seize to be amazed by how I can fall into DEEP sleep, but I always wake up right around the same point in the CD (because the music is meant to wake you up).

Fifth - Put it away and go to bed. That’s it.

You don’t have to even think about it, it just works. Listen to it and put it away.

3 Different CDs Serve 3 Different Purposes…

At their website, you’ll find TONS of different options, they have specific ones for “finding love” or for “losing weight,” etc… I’ve never used any of those, I just do the main workout.

What I’m told is that the main workout (the CD I listen to every night before bed) is all-encompassing, it all just depends on what’s the most important thing on your mind that day.

The set that I recommend right away - “Mind Aerobics 1” is a set of 3 CDs.

1. Main Workout - Listen to this every night, it’s literally like a gym for your brain. The more you listen to it, the more calm, resolved and “lucky” you get!

2. Stress Release - This is also an amazing CD I pop in any time I am stressed. It’s not as long and by the time I finish, I am completely stress free and can think straight again.

3. Super Focus - Are you having problems FOCUSING during work time? Pop this CD into your computer, grab some headphones and you’ll turn into a working machine!

I get 3 times as much done with this CD - no joke, I’m not exaggerating even one bit.

Based On Holosync Technology…

Here is an excerpt directly from the Mind Aerobics website that discusses what Holosync is…

“The principals of Holosync are based on scientific research first published in a 1973 paper in Scientific American called “Binaural Beats in the Brain”. The author, Gerald Oster, further developed the technology at Mt. Sinai Medical Center, followed by more pioneering work at research centers such as the Monroe Institute, Menninger Clinic and Centerpointe Research Institute.

Simply put, Holosync uses precisely engineered tones to stimulate the mind, in turn creating different combinations of alpha, theta, and delta brain wave patterns. The result is a number of positive changes in the brain…”

You can read much more at the website, it’s truly amazing technology - definitely has me convinced, over and over…

Listen, if you really want to increase your “luck” and start attracting a much better life while getting your head clear and about to think - invest the $79.95 and try Mind Aerobics, and yes, they have a money-back guarantee…!

Learn more, Click here to read about Holosync and Mind Aerobics…

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